Challenges in Parenting

Sometimes it amazes me how much my son is a perfect mash-up of me and his Dad, while still being very much his own person. Talkative, creative, intelligent, snarky, and sneaky, with a short temper and a big heart. Some of these traits come from one or the other of us, and some come from both… but when something comes up that’s foreign to one or the other of us — like not wanting to go to school because it’s boring — it takes some effort to get into his head and figure out how to help.

I asked Connor on two different occasions why it is that he doesn’t want to go to school. Some of the answers he gave:

  • Math is easy and boring for him, and his teacher knows it.
  • Writing is stupid.
  • He keeps getting in trouble.
  • His best friend has become a bit of a bully, and that makes him uncomfortable.

Some of these complaints are easily fixed, and some not so much.

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Life In General

Rocking it old-school today with a general life data dump on the blog. It’s been a while.

Last night, the owner of the karate studio pulled Connor and me into his office and told us that he thinks Connor is ready for Black Belt Club — that is, he seems to be serious about karate and wants to continue to pursue higher belts and ranks.

Honestly, the main reason Connor wanted to join BBC was to get to play with a sword.

His first go at sword was last night, and he did great. Pretty soon, though, they’ll be learning a different weapon, so we won’t be buying him his own wooden sword anytime soon — he’ll just borrow a sword until the whole group gets their new weapons.

Black Belt Club is really an ingenious way to get families into a longer-term commitment — instead of signing up for a six-month commitment, it becomes a two-year commitment. It’s hard to imagine Connor in third grade, honestly; I hope we haven’t overcommitted.

When I think about it, though, I took ballet classes from age four to age eight, and it was really just a part of my life. I loved it and looked forward to it, and I know my family had to stretch their funds to be able to afford it. Ballet had lasting benefits for me, though, just as I hope karate will for Connor.

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i’ve been staring at my first attempt at a t-shirt for a week or so. It’s been hanging on a hanger in my bedroom, where I can look at it and learn from the mistakes I made while sewing: attaching the neckband to an armhole, sewing the other armband on inside-out, stitching the actual neckband all funny and uneven.

Last night, I decided I would wear it to work today.

Honestly, you really can’t tell unless I point it out that the neckline (artfully hidden under my scarf) is way wavy, or that the hem is also exceptionally wavy. It’s not just a gardening shirt, after all — it’s totally wearable.

My next go-around with a knit tee will probably involve spray starch for the hems (and maybe the seams), and a longer and wider zig-zag stitch. I’ve got plans. I’m learning. I’m damn proud of myself.

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When there were no supermarket flowers awaiting me on the kitchen table this morning alongside Connor’s chocolates, I kind of hoped that I’d be getting a delivery at work today.

As usual, I was not disappointed:

Can’t help lovin’ that man of mine.

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To be frank, I’ve been in kind of a funk lately. I haven’t wanted to do any sewing this week, and I’ve been spending my evenings snacking and watching YouTube (my current obsession is The Origin of Everything by PBS).

Seeing the last couple of days laid out in front of me is starting to help me shake it off. I’m pretty stoked to try sewing up my next knit t-shirt, I’m excited for Connor to extend himself and push himself in karate class (no excuses!), and I feel mighty loved, despite also still feeling like I’m disappointing others left and right.

That’s the normal state of my brain, though; I’m used to it.

Connor’s First Stripe!

Connor earned his first stripe at Karate class on Saturday!

Top left: Miss Dennis applying Connor’s stripe
Top right: Exchanging bows
Bottom left: Exchanging fistbumps
Bottom right: Showing off his new stripe!

Connor says he likes karate kind of, except that it makes him tired. He’s definitely improving, both in physical strength and in mental focus. It’s hard, but he’s trying.

Maybe in a couple months he can join the Black Belt Club (i.e. the kids who want to keep progressing toward a black belt). Then he’ll get a wooden sword — which is really why he wants to be in BBC. 🙂